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Apr 29, 2012

This Too Will Pass...



Last week I spent time with 2 persons in different locations, who are terminally ill. Detailing of their sickness is complex and painful, hence I'll avoid. Both of them want to live longer despite acute pain. Siblings are doing their best, while accepting the inevitable. Atmosphere around the rooms is thick with depression and frustration.

I started pondering about life. I remember once I asked from a mentor, 'what is life's meaning?'
'Life is bubble' he said ' radiant and opulent, fills our hearts with joy. It can burst at any time though'

I remember a story by Ajahn Brahm.
There was a prisoner, who was afraid and depressed. Stone walls, collision of steel when iron gates closed, dried any hope he had in life. Then he saw something on his cell wall. Some one has scratched few words.

This too will pass

He looked at the words every time he lost hope, and carried on. On the day of his release he understood the truth of these words. He had completed his time. Jail too has passed.
Even after jail term, bad times came. He had the message written on his bedside, on his work desk, and in his car. He endured the bad times, looking at the message. Then came the good times. Yet he understood that good times too will pass. Hence he enjoyed them, but never carelessly. So he carried on taking nothing for granted. The good times seems to last longer than bad times.

When he got cancer ' this too will pass' gave him hope. Hope gave him strength and positive attitude that cured cancer. One day the doctor confirmed 'cancer too has passed'.

At the end, on his deathbed he whispered to his loved ones, 'this too will pass', and settled easily to death.
His family learnt from him that 'this grief too shall pass'
Depression is a prison we ourselves create.
'This too will pass' helps us to avoid the crucial cause of depression - taking good times for granted.

Having said this, it is extremely hard to put this in to practice. We are tested, when a very closed one is ill.

Apr 16, 2012

3 Things I Did Right, This Avurudu


1) 1 day transition at start and end of vacation
I allowed 1 day to wind up before the vacation, and 1 day to wind down after vacation. Simply put - lived first and last day of vacation at home. It made the whole difference.In past I made the mistake of returning around midnight, get 4 hours sleep, and start working from next day. That was bad.This time, the transition worked well.

2) Instagram
From the start of vacation I experimented with this cool app. Finally it is on android. Earlier it was only on iOS. With instagram it was easier to capture Avurudu in nice pics, and share.My username is isurasilva. Yasir Nasir did a good coverage of his trip to East. His profile is yasirnasir.Instagram is now growing in Sri Lanka.My conclusion: Instagram has given wings to my thoughts.Check it out, especially the picture effects. The video below explains Instagram.






3) Travelled Less. 
I limited the commute. Planned very few places to visit.
Means quality time at few places. Magically we met so many people. How?

When we stayed longer at one place, many other related families came to visit that place. These people we could have missed, even if we tried to visit them, now were seen gathered in one place.
We even compromised sea bath to be more with relatives. More time enabled us to blend well, and connect the dots of our lives on timeline with the memories of different people.
That showed how interconnected we are. How a small contribution from a relative had gone to make ripples in many lives, to mould our characters in to who we are today.
We felt so blessed and cared.
Avurudu is about gratitude.

Hope you had a great avurudu too !
Now's the time to get back to 'work' mode.
Cheers !