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Apr 29, 2012

This Too Will Pass...



Last week I spent time with 2 persons in different locations, who are terminally ill. Detailing of their sickness is complex and painful, hence I'll avoid. Both of them want to live longer despite acute pain. Siblings are doing their best, while accepting the inevitable. Atmosphere around the rooms is thick with depression and frustration.

I started pondering about life. I remember once I asked from a mentor, 'what is life's meaning?'
'Life is bubble' he said ' radiant and opulent, fills our hearts with joy. It can burst at any time though'

I remember a story by Ajahn Brahm.
There was a prisoner, who was afraid and depressed. Stone walls, collision of steel when iron gates closed, dried any hope he had in life. Then he saw something on his cell wall. Some one has scratched few words.

This too will pass

He looked at the words every time he lost hope, and carried on. On the day of his release he understood the truth of these words. He had completed his time. Jail too has passed.
Even after jail term, bad times came. He had the message written on his bedside, on his work desk, and in his car. He endured the bad times, looking at the message. Then came the good times. Yet he understood that good times too will pass. Hence he enjoyed them, but never carelessly. So he carried on taking nothing for granted. The good times seems to last longer than bad times.

When he got cancer ' this too will pass' gave him hope. Hope gave him strength and positive attitude that cured cancer. One day the doctor confirmed 'cancer too has passed'.

At the end, on his deathbed he whispered to his loved ones, 'this too will pass', and settled easily to death.
His family learnt from him that 'this grief too shall pass'
Depression is a prison we ourselves create.
'This too will pass' helps us to avoid the crucial cause of depression - taking good times for granted.

Having said this, it is extremely hard to put this in to practice. We are tested, when a very closed one is ill.

Apr 16, 2012

3 Things I Did Right, This Avurudu


1) 1 day transition at start and end of vacation
I allowed 1 day to wind up before the vacation, and 1 day to wind down after vacation. Simply put - lived first and last day of vacation at home. It made the whole difference.In past I made the mistake of returning around midnight, get 4 hours sleep, and start working from next day. That was bad.This time, the transition worked well.

2) Instagram
From the start of vacation I experimented with this cool app. Finally it is on android. Earlier it was only on iOS. With instagram it was easier to capture Avurudu in nice pics, and share.My username is isurasilva. Yasir Nasir did a good coverage of his trip to East. His profile is yasirnasir.Instagram is now growing in Sri Lanka.My conclusion: Instagram has given wings to my thoughts.Check it out, especially the picture effects. The video below explains Instagram.






3) Travelled Less. 
I limited the commute. Planned very few places to visit.
Means quality time at few places. Magically we met so many people. How?

When we stayed longer at one place, many other related families came to visit that place. These people we could have missed, even if we tried to visit them, now were seen gathered in one place.
We even compromised sea bath to be more with relatives. More time enabled us to blend well, and connect the dots of our lives on timeline with the memories of different people.
That showed how interconnected we are. How a small contribution from a relative had gone to make ripples in many lives, to mould our characters in to who we are today.
We felt so blessed and cared.
Avurudu is about gratitude.

Hope you had a great avurudu too !
Now's the time to get back to 'work' mode.
Cheers !

Feb 26, 2012

Visualize What You Want



It is said that Tajmahal was built 2 times. One in Agra - the actual structure. The other in the mind of the architect - to minute details. Thing is, if it had not been visualized in his mind to exact detail before constructing, it would never have been breath-taking.

So every action that we undertake produces the result that we visualize. It has a tremendous energy and purpose. In Alice in Wonderland, Alice asks " Where am I?" from some animal. Then the animal asks " Where do you wanna go?" Alice replies " I am not sure." Finally the animal says " Ah, in that case, you are in the right place."

Like wise, visualization allows our mind to go the journey, to embrace the success we seek. This is not fantasizing or day dreaming. This prepares us for the journey.
  • Visualizing helps to focus attention on the steps needed to reach the goal.
  • Visualizing reduces the anxiety
When you visualize, you are simply creating pictures in your own mind of doing, having or being whatever it is you desire. These pictures will generate powerful thoughts and feelings in you. These powerful positive feelings, in turn, help you create and attract whatever it is you want to be, have, or do.

Take time each day to imagine what it will be like for you when you have achieved the goal or goals you want now.
Use all your senses.

Picture credit: David Buffington

Feb 17, 2012

Fear of loosing

Fear not. This is the major reason, preventing us from trying something new.

We think of loosing, even before trying the first step.
Some dose of fear is good for planning and anticipation of the worst to come. It makes us prepared.

But you don't have to. Because fear is something we create, inside.
World outside is too busy with many things. No one will recognize you are up to something.
Build confidence with the first few steps.
When they do recognize you - you will be confident.

Jan 14, 2012

Energy and Focus

Energy is best when it is positve.
Focus tunes with energy.

Everyday we have 24 hours.
Managing time, with negative energy and distracted focus is called wasting time.

Overdose of TV, especially news = negative energy
Multitasking, especially working on a document, with intermittent checking of twitter & FB = distracted focus

Jan 13, 2012

Opportunity knocks once, temptation leans on the doorbell



This is powerfully true.

How many times, when you start working on an opportunity (normally which requires much time) -  you feel like checking Facebook, twitter, watching TV or youtube, or may be a little nap?

Temptation (distractions) are plenty.

Opportunities come for those who are prepared.

Preparation = controlling temptations = Saving time.

Jan 12, 2012

Every day before you leave office

Pause.

Write down what you have achieved. In a journal, in your words, as if you are talking with your mind.

Write the best parts, even if it is minute.

Write the worst parts, just to get it out of your head.
 
So when you step out of office, you are open to the world as it is. Traffic will not frustrate you, shop queues will not depress you.

Jan 4, 2012

Managing (Balancing) Time

Most time management thinking focuses on prioritizing. Setting goals.
It is correct. The most painful thing right now - gets the attention.

But it should add this too.

Balance

Because you have goals as well as roles. A human can be connected to someone as a father, mother, brother, sister, son , daughter, office colleague, manager, sports buddy, mango friend, aunt, uncle. etc.

Pick your roles too.


Balance connects you to your overall mission and your principles. It is peaceful.

Jan 1, 2012

Empathy works.

At noon, under scorching sun and sweat dripping, I entered the salon.
"Sorry, I am closing, going for lunch."

I said " Sure, it's damn hot, you should get a break and have lunch. I can wait till you come."
He stared at me in a surprised expression.
"What?" I asked.
"You are different. You said you can wait. I never heard it before from a customer. That's why I have gastric now. Anyways I'll be right back soon."

He was back in 20 minutes. There were 3 more customers behind me. 
He said to me " I usually close the saloon for 45 minutes for lunch. Today I did not close and have more customers. Thanks !"
I could feel he was energized. He took lesser time with my hair, than a typical day.

Empathy (the ability to understand and share the feelings of another) works. Both ways. Initiation matters a lot.

Say "Good Morning 2012!"

A hour early. That's it.

A perfect new year resolution one can ever make.  If you normally wake up at 6, make a habit to wake up at 5. Many, including me, are skeptic at first. We all know waking early is good. Many brilliant thinkers & leaders did that. Their bios tell the success of waking up early.

Yet we are not quite sure, until we wake up early. Then the question is 'what to do?'
There are many things, but the best tactic I found successful is starting with exercise. Do it for 10 minutes. Continue daily. That's the key. Daily.

If you are planning doing it or already doing, tell me your results :)

Related Article: Getting to work early morning - An example